Saturday 30 August 2014

تو مجھ سے مانگتا ہے جو

تو مجھ سے مانگتا ہے جو 
وہ مجھ میں ہے رہا نہیں 
میری زات کے آۂنے میں جو شخص جھانکتا ہے اب
اسے میں کبھی ملا نہیں
وہی مگر ہے اب یہاں
اسی کے سارے راستے، اسی کی ساری منزلیں
میرا کوئ اتہ نہیں، کچھ بھی پتہ نہیں
مجھے راستے نے کھو دیا، اسے سنگ لے کے چل دیا

تو مجھ سے مانگتا ہے جو، وہ مجھ میں ہے رہا نہیں 

Sunday 3 August 2014

Metaphors Metaphors.... incompatibility

So I am playing with my daughter and here comes another chain of thoughts i couldn't get myself to ignore....

I am trying to show Dia how to shoot at a magnetic dart board we bought for her long back which she only used to identify Dora for the longest time. But now she is gaining interest in the fact that darts have magnets on them and if she throws them from a distance towards the board it still sticks/ Just when I thought she has got the hang of it and I am about the celebrate another tit bit milestone she starts to try and join the two darts which obviously are two similar ends of the magnet and are repelling each other.

Now she is really interested as she tries to push them together and they refuse and keep moving forcing her hands to paddle and she goes "mamma look" with her quizzical stare meaning to ask me whats going on. And me being me I try to teacher her a fancy word saying, "Dia this is what we call repelling, the magnets repel each other" but she probably didn't pay attention as the fact that an object is not moving as per her desire was something definitely more intriguing.

Then just like that she handed them to me as if trying to say you try and I tried. I tried to put these magnets together, I forced them the same way she was poor little magnets scummed a little to my 70 kilo pressure and I was under the illusion that I have put them two together triumphant i looked up only to realize that a slight lapse in my attention and they had once again separated despite the force i was still applying.

I played this game for a bit and then thought maybe its better just the way it is, sometimes we are just incompatible and it doesn't matter how much effort, how much force we put to make certain relationships work, the fact remains that every single ripple no matter how small would not only put us apart again but will also make the effort put in place go all in vain. Maybe sometimes its just better for some relationships to not exist and for some people to remain apart.

We as individuals for various reasons try to put these relationships right, sometimes bound by self righteousness, other times for professional courtesy but also sometimes out of love and desire. We try to change, we try to mend ways, we put too much effort, we suffer as a consequence but we try too hard to not give up, we try too damn hard sometimes not giving up and losing ourselves in the process.

Am sitting here thinking while my daughter has moved on from the dart board to the doll house, "How is it that I teach her this? how is it that I teach her that it is better to try not put together things that repel due nature?"